Don’t Allow Perception to Paralyze Potential

Misperceptions

It doesn’t surprise me really; misperceptions happen every single day. Yet every time I encounter a misunderstanding, I find it’s almost always due to one or more parties reacting before seeking to hear all points of view.

Perception is everything.
Perception is the reality of the beholder.

Reaction Results

In a world full of fallible humans, it seems as though, too often, we only see our own side of a situation. We often forget to ask, what might be the root cause of my perception? Might it be something that happened to me formerly and not what has just occurred? During that “reaction phase,” it’s tough to ponder the answers to those types of questions. I mean we are human, and at that moment, we are frustrated. We are upset, and we don’t want to find clarity. That is typically when we react.

However, when we choose to react and believe our way of viewing the circumstance is the reality, many times
offenses are formed,
hurt is birthed,
trust is broken, and
potential is paralyzed.

But, what if we took time to see the perspective of the one who “offended” us? Might the fog of misunderstanding clear and make way for the hope that lies just beyond the haze? Are we missing the rainbow, because we allow our misperception to cause a heavy fog of doubt?

Proactive vs. Reactive

In what ways might we be proactive rather than reactive? What if that one that hurt you was trying, in their own way, to please you? What if they wanted nothing more than to make you feel appreciated and valued? What if your perception of their actions is exactly the opposite of their intent?

Everyone involved has a part of the story; let’s be intentional to hear all perspectives. Most of us are not mind-readers, so let’s ask questions over assuming intentions. If we choose to assume, wouldn’t it be better to assume the positive? (No doubt, I try to read minds occasionally and typically miss the mark—big time.) I think we would do better to lead with humble inquiry, rather than assuming the worst and reacting.

Humble Inquiry Stems

What are your thoughts?
Why are you feeling so frustrated?
Please help me better understand your point of view.
Describe your thought process.
I’m interested to hear what you’re thinking.

Culture of Trust

Perception is everything. But, is it the REAL reality?

How do we, as educators, seek clarification from those we serve in controversial circumstances? Clear communication is vital to creating a culture of trust. Let’s strive for success in this area. Our students and our staff deserve it.

Don’t allow perception to paralyze potential. Seek clarification.