Emotional Jumper Cables

By Tara M Martin

Dec 23

I saw this image on social media the other day and couldn’t help but LOVE the message. 

https://goo.gl/images/aLcVEi 

The Struggle is REAL 

Many times I pass people in the school system, grocery store, post office line, or even virtually in a Twitter chat, and I never know how they are feeling on the inside–not even a portion of their inner struggles. I’m not going to lie, there are times I can see the pain in their eyes–like our waitress the other night. I just knew we had to leave her a big tip. Something in my heart told me to do it, and I never ignore those little nudges. But, most times, I just see another human doing their best to check off their busy to-do list.

Life has a way of getting cluttered with lots of things that often cause us to miss the “emotional boosts” that are needed around us. I’d venture to say this time of the year is especially hard for many individuals. The point is, this thing called life can be a REAL struggle.

Give An Emotional Boost 

I’ve found that hugging in the Midwest isn’t near as socially accepted as hugging in the south, where I was born and raised. In fact, when we moved here eleven years ago, I went to introduce myself to my neighbor, and when I told him my name and wrapped him in a huge hug he was as stiff as a board. We still giggle about that interaction. Hilarious. Long story short, we became great friends, but I warned him to never move to the south–even our Wal-Mart greeters embrace those that enter the store in a welcoming hug. Not kidding.

However, when visiting with others—in the Midwest or anywhere really, there have been many situations where I don’t have words to express my thoughts…so I let my “emotional jumper cables” give them a little charge. It absolutely works for me. 

Hugs can be powerful. 

I can honestly say, I miss the emotional boosts I would receive from little people daily in the school building. They kept me fully charged, no doubt. I know…I’m so elementary. 

Granted, not all prefer hugging. No worries; there are many ways we can emotionally boost those around us.

A few that come to mind are:

  • Smile. A simple smile goes a long way.
  • Greet them. “Good Morning.”
  • Give a compliment.
  • Give a little extra tip.
  • Buy a coffee for the person behind you in line.
  • Look them in the eyes and say something kind.
  • Write or type a little note of appreciation.
  • Or, just type a text/DM, “I’m thinking about you today. Sending some love.”
  • It’s the little things.
  • Also, don’t point out their mistakes—especially not publicly. 
  • Instead, praise their efforts.
  • In fact, openly share their awesomeness with others.

And if you’re at a loss, try the “emotional jumper cables.” They connect hearts, and hearts say things our human minds can’t exactly comprehend. 

Too many people in this world spend way too much time tearing others down, let’s give those around us an emotional boost. A little goes a long way. Remember, we are all human, and humans struggle from time to time.

((Hugs from Kansas))

– T

PS This is one of my most favorite Christmas songs: Don’t Save It All for Christmas Day by Avalon. Have a listen; it shares a similar message as this post. 

About the Author

I am an educator who values the individuality and uniqueness of others. Writing the blog R.E.A.L. is an outlet for me to pay it forward by sharing ideas, influences, lessons learned and exposing a little vulnerability while encouraging others to maximize their R.E.A.L. potential, as well.

great article thanks a lot.

    Tara M Martin

    Awww…thanks! 🙂

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