Not All Feedback Should Be Internalized

Hear me out. I’m reflective…to a fault many times, and I LOVE feedback. Lots of it! For example, I’m the one who sends performance surveys to my people and seeks their perspective. I also record (and watch) my speaking, teaching, workouts, etc., to find areas for improvement. That’s me.

However, I know that not all feedback should be internalized. 

When we receive feedback solicited (or unsolicited) about our performance, character, etc., we should acknowledge it, but then it’s up to us to unpack it. 

• Does this make sense?
• Have we considered the source?
• Do I see this behavior (or skill) as flawed or something that needs to be tweaked or changed?
• Might I get a second opinion from another trusted source?
• Can I record my performance and view it from that perspective?

If you check it out and it proves true, then adjust. You’ll be better for it later.

On the flip side, if you’ve unpacked it and the behavior or performance seems acceptable, keep on keeping on. Don’t overcorrect a “problem” that isn’t a real problem. In fitness, this can cause an injury. In life, it can make your head spin! 

Not everyone does everything the same way. There is always room for personalization–in life, fitness, character, etc. 

Just a little reminder–not all feedback should be internalized. 

Let it go. Save your energy.